Guest blog by Jess Stuart.
Check out her new book ‘A Rough Guide to a Smooth Life’, A Guide to Living and Loving Life…http://goo.gl/Tlq2gs – Read more on her website; www.inspireyourlife.org
So the ‘stress’ of Christmas is over, the presents have been opened, we’ve filled ourselves with an abundance of food and we hopefully are now able to relax and breathe, until the credit card statement arrives! It can certainly seem a lot more complicated these days than it used to be.
For me Christmas is about family, living overseas this is one of the few times I get to be with my family and as we pull crackers across the table I can’t help but feel grateful for the time we have together, the abundance of things that really matter and how fortunate we are in a world where so many others are not. At this time of year I am also reminded of Christmas’s past and those family members who can no longer be with us and wish that I’d really taken the time to appreciate the big Christmas gatherings we had when we were children, the joy of Christmas and being with those we love, those times can never be repeated and during the moment we often overlook this.
“Happiness isn’t about getting what you want it’s about loving what you have”
We have a habit of focussing on what we haven’t got instead of all the things we’re lucky to have, even the basics like food, warmth, health, education, freedom. It is human nature to focus on the tiny bits that are not right rather than the large chunks that are. This leave us feeling dissatisfied and always wanting more but that is a never ending journey, we’ll always be left wanting more!
We feel we have to ‘have’ things to be free when in fact it’s the opposite, our struggle to hold onto things brings the very pain we are trying to avoid, we are terrified of letting go for fear we’ll have nothing but this is the true path to living. I look at those who live simply and can’t help thinking they know the secret, they have mastered the art of living. After all, everything material we have can be lost tomorrow and the irony is if you’re asked what you most value it’s likely to be the things money can’t buy and put under the tree, things like love, your health and your family.
“That man is poor, not who has little but who hankers after more” Seneca
It’s also the time of year for welcoming in the New Year. A time when we look over the year that has gone and look forward to the potential of a new start.
It’s been a year since I left my corporate job to follow my dreams and I’ve learned so much. I’ve published my first book and grown my business but I still catch myself focusing on the things I haven’t achieved yet, there’s been no media appearance or sell out tours! As I look ahead to 2016 and start to set my goals for the year I’m also reminded to be grateful for the last year and how far I’ve come, to celebrate the successes along the way.
Often in business and in life we can become so consumed with our quest for development and success that it’s easy to overlook the challenges we’ve overcome and the small successes along the way that get us to this point.
It’s healthy to have goals to aim for and the start of a New Year brings new opportunities for progress. But if we always focus on what we haven’t got it can detract from the gratitude for the things we do have and the success we’ve had along the way.
This can also lead us into the trap of feeling we should be further along than we are, particularly in business. It can be easy to compare our success to others, or our own expectations and get stuck on the treadmill of wanting more. It’s worth remembering to appreciate the journey and celebrate our successes along the way.
Whilst it is the time for goals and a time for receiving it’s also a time for remembering all we have to be grateful for.
Jess Stuart – Wellness Coach & Author
Speaker, author and coach with a mission to empower people to realise their potential to achieve balance in life, inspiring people to find their purpose, rediscover what matters and make changes to bring about a healthier, happier world.
After a successful career in the corporate HR world Jess decided to follow her passion in Health and Wellness. A qualified yoga and meditation instructor with a certificate in Life Coaching. Jess has trained in Buddhist meditation and mindfulness. Having lived, worked and volunteered in many countries with some inspirational people Jess draws her life experience into her work to share the principles of health and happiness.
Her first book ‘A Rough Guide to a Smooth Life’, A Guide to Living and Loving Life is out now.
Read more on the website; www.inspireyourlife.org