By Gabriele White
Many teenagers get stressed out before tests or presentations in front of their peers. It’s true that nearly every high school student goes through this. It is not true that this response has to take control and overwhelm you. Stress in these situations is self-induced and can be controlled by your own positive thoughts and actions. Believe in yourself and stay positive.
You can reduce your stress in many ways. You can accept that you can’t change the way things happen or what people think of you. You can prepare more for the test and you can choose not to panic or let the stress take over your thoughts. Many teenagers become so focused on the story, “oh, I lm stressed” that they create increasingly more stress. In reality, if you tell yourself, I can do this and take it one step at a time you will be able to manage the stress and end up more successful and happier.
Teenagers tend to struggle with the concept of taking responsibility for their actions. They never think it’s their fault for putting everything off until the last moment. They believe that the teacher shouldn’t have assigned such a dumb project.
Take responsibility for your actions. More and more often you see teenagers blame their failures on others. Not even other people but other objects too. A lot of the times kids start believing that it really was “Sandra’s fault for not giving me the pencil so I couldn’t take the test” or “it’s my math teacher’s fault for not teaching.” But let’s get real; you should have brought a pencil to class. I mean it’s annoying Sandra didn’t give you a pencil, but it’s your fault for not coming prepared, and your math teacher is a teacher for a reason. She went through 4 years of training for this and I’m sure she’s doing better than most people would. When you fail a math test, it’s your fault. When you screw up and get caught cheating, stealing, or doing something you shouldn’t be doing, it’s your fault. This may seem obvious to some people, but not to others. You have to admit it’s your fault and realize that consequences come with every decision. You may not like them or want them, but they will help you learn and grow from these experiences. Once you’ve done this and accepted the blame and failure, you’re no longer a victim. You can take control of your life and your feelings.
People feel pressure to always be in touch and posting online. I mean, if it’s not on Snapchat did it really happen? Social media influences us to fit into society by being perfect and cool and funny and smart. This can be stressful, overwhelming and lead to bad decisions, but we still check Snapchat, Instagram, and Twitter during every free moment.
Whenever we go online we automatically start comparing ourselves to the beautiful filter covered photos. For me I know get jealous seeing all my friends on Snapchat hanging out while I’m practicing sports or just at home with my family. Some people would say this give you “anxiety and stress”. If that’s the case then maybe it’s time to put the phone down.
Snapchat is a great example of how technology controls us. It makes me feel like I must Snapchat every day so I don’t lose my streaks. Once I ran out of data and it was really stressful because I didn’t want to lose my streaks. Rather than a choice, it became a burden. Once I stopped, I found that losing my streaks made me feel better, almost freed.
Also, don’t define your best friends by the list of 7 people you snapchat the most. Snapchat who you want to Snapchat; and don’t worry if they aren’t who you hang out with. Don’t let this computer generated list define your life.
I recently noticed that I have touched my phone every day for nearly 2 years. Yet I am not sure I have hugged my parents or brothers or anyone every day of those two years. Also, my phone has seen my face for a longer period of time than any one person. Our phones have become the center of our lives .
We use them to connect with people who are hundreds of miles away from us. As cool as that is, there’s actually people who are less than 20 feet away from us who are perfectly capable of having a conversation in person. I believe many teenagers do not realize that our body’s already have this connection feature and it doesn’t cost extra or take time to install.
I am not saying that having a phone or social media is bad. I ‘m just saying if you allow it to control your life, you miss out on more personal connections. You become a victim of technology rather than allowing technology to enhance connection. We are allowing our phones to consume us. While reading this, you’ve probably gotten 3 new notifications, and you may have even stopped to read them or at least check to see if they were important.
Appreciate where you are in life and who you have around because eventually they won’t be there anymore. My family consists of five people; me, my two older brothers and my parents. One of the hardest things lately is that my two older brothers are moving out of the house. I never thought the day would come. They will always still be children, even if legally they are considered adults. I’ve been scrambling to absorb every detail of these last years. I don’t want to forget what it was like rushing, pushing, and shoving as we race up the stairs to bed. I realized that not one of these memories came from my phone through Snapchat.
Stop wishing you were somewhere else with someone else. If you aren’t where you want to be, then change it. If social media brings you down then put it down. Make real life memories. Stop letting the virtual reality become your only reality.
Throughout your life you will face hardships, but you have to persevere. Don’t give up because life is difficult. You can’t expect a great life to be handed to you; you’ve got to work for it. This has been said many times, but it hasn’t sunk in for many of us. So I am saying it again. You are in control of your life. You decide what to do with the difficult times. Don’t give in to stress and anxiety. Take responsibility, make good choices and fight through it.