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Happiness Hack #71 – Find Ways to Matter

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We all want to matter and make a difference in the world. The best way to do that is to make an effort to help someone else.  Whether it is a working with a charity, helping a friend move, or just helping a co-worker get through a tough day, being able to make a small impact on someone’s life has a big impact on our happiness and how we feel about ourselves. Because of the chaos of life, we get caught up in our own challenges and what we need from others in order to be successful or happy. We lose track of what really gives us a deep sense of fulfillment and what really makes a difference in our lives. As counter-intuitive as it may seem, we don’t become fulfilled by focusing on and meeting our own needs. Rather than content, that leaves us empty and hollow. We evolved to be social and contributing members to our tribes, so our brains are wired to gain satisfaction when we help others improve their lives.

 

How can you help someone else? How can you reach out and make someone else’s day a little better? Find ways to matter and make a difference for someone else and you will be happier and more successful.

 

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My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

Happiness Hack #22 – Be Kind

 Practicing Random Acts of Kindness Make You Happier

Practicing kindness connects us to people in ways we might not expect as we get surprised by other people’s positive reactions to what we are doing. Helping others helps us find a sense of meaning, and helps us see how fortunate we are, and improves our mood. Physically, Acts of Kindness release serotonin in our brains and in the brains of the people who watch our Acts of Kindness. Kindness makes everyone happier.

Pick one day a week to practice Random Acts of Kindness. Set a goal, like 5 in one day.

  1. Tape money to a vending machine
  2. Spend $5 on a friend
  3. Give up your cab or your seat on the bus to someone who seems to be having a bad day.
  4. Open a door for someone or hold the elevator.
  5. Buy a friend a Coke or a coffee
  6. Bring donuts to work

 

 

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About 

My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

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Happiness Hack #19 – Help Others

Helping Others Makes You Happier

Being kind to others and volunteering makes you happier. Practicing acts of kindness releases serotonin into your brain, which makes you feel happier. People who observe an act of kindness also have serotonin released into their brain. So doing something nice not only makes you happier, it also brings happiness to anyone that happens to be watching. The key is actually wanting to help. Your motivation has to be an intrinsic desire to help someone rather than being focused on what you are going to get out it.

Caring does not have to be connected to an organized charity. Reaching out to a friend or someone at work or school also makes you happier. Giving to others releases endorphins, which provide us with a “helper’s high” similar to a “runner’s high”. The even better news is that even after the chemicals dissipate from our bodies, we still have a long term sense of well-being that can last for several months.

 The Master has no possessions. The more he does for others, the happier he is. The more he gives to others, the wealthier he is.”   Lao Tzu

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About 

My Passion is helping people become successful and happy. I have found that many people want to be successful but just don’t know how. More importantly, people want to be successful because they feel that reaching some success pinnacle will result in them becoming happy. The research and my experience has shown that just the opposite is the case. Success does not lead to happiness. Happiness leads to success.

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